Dealing with Your Grief

No, you are not going crazy! These are normal reactions to an abnormal event that has touched your life. Keep in mind, your child has died, and it will take more than a month or two to heal from this loss. Knowing and working through these feelings won’t magically dissipate the grief. But, gradually, healing comes. Be patient with yourself.

Some Physical Effects of Grief

Having trouble with remembering things, with thinking about organizational tasks, with intellectual processing, and with making decisions.

Finding yourself acting socially in ways that are different from before.

A feeling of lightness in the throat or heaviness in the chest with rapid breathing. Feeling as if you are experiencing a panic attack, with no control over where or when this occurs.

Restlessness and a desire for activity, but difficulty concentrating. Focusing is difficult and forgetfulness quite apparent.

Being in a trance-like state, sitting for hours and staring.

Feeling as though your child’s death didn’t actually happen (this may include trying to find your child or repeatedly checking his room or crib)

Dizziness or disorientation.

Sensing your child’s presence. For many people, this can be quite comforting.

Frequent headaches.

Impatience with the tedious day-to-day chores around the house.

Difficulty sleeping or falling asleep, and possibly dreaming or having visions of the baby you lost.

Sleeping all day or feeling like you do not want to get out of bed and face the world.

An empty feeling in your stomach and loss or gain of appetite. Call your physician if this continues longer than several weeks.

Pain and/or nausea in your stomach (again, call your physician if this persists).